• activism,  charlottesville,  justice,  peace,  personal responsibility,  social justice

    Make a Choice

    I have been working on this piece off and on since the events in Charlottesville August 11 and 12. It is longish at 1342 words. It is not a political statement. It is my moral position on possibly the single most destructive evil in the United States: racism. When I lived in Birmingham, Alabama, I met a couple who had recently returned to the states after living abroad for several years. They had a young son about 8 years old who had been born while they were overseas. That fall, well into football season, he came home from school and asked his parents if they were for Alabama or Auburn. His…

  • forgiveness,  grief,  motivation monday,  personal power,  personal responsibility

    How Do You Let Go?

    Acceptance, Grief, Support, and Forgiveness In this fourth article in our series on letting go, you may be thinking that letting go of old stories is easy for a person who has had a relatively happy life. Perhaps that’s not you. Maybe you’ve battled alcohol or drugs. Maybe you’ve dealt with abuse, violent crime, or the death of a child. These stories can be particularly difficult to release. One of the reasons old stories, especially dark, painful stories, can have such power over us is because actions and behaviors in the past have long-reaching consequences. For example, adults who experienced child abuse may have difficulty developing and sustaining close relationships;…

  • motivation monday,  personal development,  personal power,  personal responsibility

    Are you in love with your old stories?

    Even the bad ones? It’s Motivation Monday! Emma was a successful business owner who would tell herself, “I’m not good with money.” She used this story as an excuse to ignore the numbers in her business. She was constantly behind on her taxes, and she procrastinated getting a LLC set up even though she knew it would protect her. One day, a friend and fellow business owner called Emma out on what she was saying. Her friend told her the “not good with money” story was holding her back from the next level of success. It was Emma’s way of playing small and staying safe. What’s your story? Every day,…

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  • business,  decisions,  ethics,  excellence,  personal responsibility,  productivity

    Defeating the energy vampires

    I am a person who strives to treat each person I meet with respect and kindness, and I expect that those with whom I choose to work, socialize, and develop intimate relationships would treat me in the same manner. As a result, I am always temporarily taken aback when folks don’t respond in kind. Of course, I realize that humans aren’t always on their best behavior. We all have bad moments and sometimes even long, dark bad spells in our lives. However, once we schlep off those dark webs, we make our apologies and amends and rejoin the ranks of our mutually respectful peers. There are, however, those who derive…

  • business,  ethics,  personal responsibility

    Fessing up

    I made a mistake this week. I was installing a new website for a client and accidentally wiped out an existing site…. OOPS! Not an unheard of goof in the technical world. Although, for me, it is usually a client who accidentally wipes out his own site and calls me in to fix it. So what do you do when you make a mistake that is going to be obvious to the client as soon as he tries to visit his website? I suppose you could feign innocence. You could shift the blame to a poor hosting interface (why, oh, why, does any hosting company use an interface other than…

  • health,  health care,  personal responsibility

    If we really want to solve the healthcare crisis…

    (After writing this I decided to add this disclaimer at the top: I believe a modern, civil society has a moral obligation to care for the sick. However, each individual in such a society also has a moral obligation to do his or her part not to invite illness and disease into his or her life.) Good health starts with healthy habits. Healthy habits are a personal responsibility. Eating right and exercising are personal choices–personal choices that far too few Americans choose to make. Despite the millions of dollars spent each year on gym memberships, fitness products, and fad diets, Americans continue to be overweight and unhealthy. High blood pressure,…

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