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    Roadblocks to Believing in Yourself

    Make self-compassion a priority Self-confidence boosts your chances of living the life you want to live. However, if you are too hard on yourself, you can short circuit your confidence and avoid moving out of your comfort zone to create a better life. You could even come to think you don’t deserve the life you want. Practicing self-compassion is essential for a healthy, happy life. Check out these three common confidence killers that can keep you from living out your true potential. 1. Comparison Quit comparing your life to the lives of those around you and especially the lives of people you’re connected with on social media. Doing so can…

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    The First Steps to Improving Self-Compassion

    and self-esteem Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. Self-compassion is how you treat yourself. The two combined form a lens through which you determine who you are and what you’re capable of accomplishing. If you lack either one, you may see yourself as unworthy and untalented. Instead of seeing your ability to easily start a conversation with anyone as a talent for communication, you see it as a flaw and call yourself motormouth or chatty Cathy. While it can be tempting to fixate on our perceived flaws, doing so won’t help create the lives we want to live. Consider the following three ideas for boosting your self-compassion. 1. Stop…

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    A Future You Can Believe In

    Dare to Dream We finished the series on letting go of old stories, and now we start a series on believing in yourself and all the possibilities for your life. The number one advice I can give you is to practice self-compassion. Self-esteem gets all the glory, but the truth is we need to offer ourselves the compassion we probably offer to those around us. When we quit expecting perfection, we allow ourselves to explore and learn and grow without fear. It is then that we begin to realize all the possibilities available to us. The future isn’t bleak and depressing. It’s exciting and filled with new opportunities. So, what’s…

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    How to Keep Your Focus Forward

    And write a new story This is the last in the series on letting go of old stories. You may find yourself stuck as you release your old story and write a new one. You ditched the old story that was dragging you down, yet you don’t know want to do next. I know when I let go of an old, unhelpful story about being an introvert I felt relieved but was unsure (and a little nervous) about what my new story should look like. If this describes you, try asking yourself these questions… What new hobbies interest me? Don’t be afraid to try all sorts of new things now…

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    How Do You Let Go?

    Acceptance, Grief, Support, and Forgiveness In this fourth article in our series on letting go, you may be thinking that letting go of old stories is easy for a person who has had a relatively happy life. Perhaps that’s not you. Maybe you’ve battled alcohol or drugs. Maybe you’ve dealt with abuse, violent crime, or the death of a child. These stories can be particularly difficult to release. One of the reasons old stories, especially dark, painful stories, can have such power over us is because actions and behaviors in the past have long-reaching consequences. For example, adults who experienced child abuse may have difficulty developing and sustaining close relationships;…

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    What Keeps You Chained to Old Stories?

    . . . and I mean physically linked to those stories! Motivation Monday Consider Gail’s situation. She was moving to a new home and had purchased new furniture. As she looked around her house trying to decide what pieces of existing furniture she wanted to take with her, she noticed the antique sewing cabinet in her living room. It had been handed down to Gail by her mother. Although Gail loved to sew, she no longer wanted this family heirloom. Why? Every time she looked at it all she could think of was her mother’s constant criticism. The cabinet filled her with sadness and anger. The cabinet reinforced Gail’s old…

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    Do Other People Love Telling Old Stories About You?

    Perhaps Vanessa’s or Chloe’s story sounds familiar . . . Vanessa loved her extended family, but she always cringed during Thanksgiving dinner. Every year, her aunt would bring up Vanessa’s past mistakes. She would mention how many times Vanessa had shoplifted as a teenager and jokingly tell her family to count the silverware. Other relatives sometimes joined in the conversation and called Vanessa “sticky fingers.” Chloe was an alcoholic in recovery. Every few months, she’d get together with her friends for a girls’ weekend. The only problem was that one friend loved to bring up the crazy things Chloe did back in her drinking days. Chloe wasn’t ashamed of her…

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    Are you in love with your old stories?

    Even the bad ones? It’s Motivation Monday! Emma was a successful business owner who would tell herself, “I’m not good with money.” She used this story as an excuse to ignore the numbers in her business. She was constantly behind on her taxes, and she procrastinated getting a LLC set up even though she knew it would protect her. One day, a friend and fellow business owner called Emma out on what she was saying. Her friend told her the “not good with money” story was holding her back from the next level of success. It was Emma’s way of playing small and staying safe. What’s your story? Every day,…

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    How do you do it?

    I just do it. I know that sounds like a Nike advertisement, but I have been asked this question and that is the best answer I know. I simply keep on doing. Mood, health, weather, finances, relationships, and more can trip me up. Trip. Possibly Fall. Definitely Get Back Up. I just keep going. I just do it. Nobody asks how I do it because I’m breathtakingly beautiful, or fabulously wealthy, or living in a posh pad, or driving a fancy car. They ask because, no matter what, I am living my life in an intentional and satisfying way. I live the life I want to live despite setbacks and hardships…

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    Symbols of New Life at the Vernal Equinox

    Spring has arrived Today is the Spring Equinox in the Northern Hemisphere. Spring represents new beginnings and new life in many cultures. Eggs, bunnies, lambs, flowers, and green leaves on trees are all symbols of hope. We also associate the vernal equinox with a time of spring cleaning: getting rid of the old, bringing in the new, and restoring vitality and health to our homes. The spring equinox is also a time for creativity and fresh starts. This quote from playwright George Bernard Shaw fits right into these spring time themes: Life isn’t about finding yourself. It’s about creating yourself. Last week I was thinking about pruning. This week I’m…

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