• goals,  self-discovery,  self-talk,  work it wednesday

    Banish Negative Self-Talk

    Last week we talked about productivity. This week we dig a bit deeper into what holds some people back from getting things done: negative self-talk. Use Positive Self-Talk to Conquer Any Task I don’t have too many rules in my classroom, but the most important rule is “No Negative Self-Talk.” I encourage students not to say “I can’t do this” or “I’m not smart enough” or “I must be dumb since everyone else is getting this.” Instead I ask them to phrase their frustrations as “I’m having trouble with this” or “I need you to show me this again” or “I want to practice more so I can understand.” Positive…

  • excellence,  goals,  happiness,  pets

    Lessons from a Cowboy

    Cowboy was abandoned in a foreclosed home during the long, hot summer of 2012. No one found him until about 30 days after he had been left behind by his not so loving family. He weighed 3 pounds. All I can think is that there had to have been a water leak somewhere in that house that allowed him to stay hydrated and not die alone and sad. Today Cowboy weighs a healthy 10 pounds. He lives in a loving home with playmates, regular meals, and a spot snuggled up at my feet each night. Amazingly, he shows few ill effects from his abandonment. He still eats his food way…

  • equality,  goals,  objectification,  personal development,  politics,  women

    Boobs or Brains? What defines you?

    Every now and then, the Parade magazine that comes in my Sunday newspaper actually runs an article of value and interest. This week, a David Gergen interview with retired Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor is worth reading. O’Connor is one of my idols – she inspires me to think more and do more. She is a woman worth emulating. Gergen asks her about her experience in 1952 when, as a top law graduate from Stanford, she was unable to find a job. Why? It wasn’t because the economy was bad or she was shy or incompetent. It was because she was a woman. Stop and think about that for…

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  • decisions,  goals,  livelihood,  simple living

    Beefing up the bucket list

    Yesterday, Parade Magazine published a piece called “America’s Bucket List 2011.” They said it was a list of “essential experiences every American should have.” I must be a good American because I’ve done all but four items on the list, but I probably won’t be adding those to my bucket list any time soon. The four I’ll skip are: #2 Watch a lawn mower race. I know people who go to lawn mower races. Does that count? #10 Volunteer to be a poll worker on election day. I won’t rule this one out forever. However, in my precinct the poll workers are all pushing 80 years old. I’ll wait another…

  • adventure,  columbus day,  goals

    Oceans Blue

    Columbus set out to sail the ocean blue in 1492 and didn’t have a clue where he would end up. For all he knew he was going to fall off the edge of the earth or be swallowed by a sea monster. Instead, he landed in the Bahamas. Any cruise that lands in the Bahamas is a good thing. The courage of Columbus and his crew on the Nina, the Pinta and the Santa Maria got me thinking. How often is anyone today willing to embark on a venture where the end result is unknown? We spend a lot of time planning and plotting with a specific goal in mind.…